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Top 10 Fears Ruining Relationships in 2021

 

Loving someone can be risky business, so it’s natural that fear is present in relationships. But when fear operates in our lives in a way that hurts us or hurts others, it becomes a problem when it involves aggression or withdrawal. Recognizing these fears and how they may affect our lives can help us make the necessary changes to get the love we want.

  1. Fear of losing freedom. Tied down, trapped, cornered, stuck—this “claustrophobia” points to mistaken beliefs about what relationships are supposed to be. The ability to say No lovingly and respectfully and set clear and fair boundaries is an essential ingredient of a healthy relationship.
  2. Fear of conflict. Let’s face it—love can be messy. But it doesn’t have to be destructive. Constructive communication skills can be learned, and when handled with caring and respectful communication, conflicts can become vital building blocks of deeper trust and intimacy.
  3. Fear of change. Change means work,...
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The Ten Commandments of Change

 

The Ten Commandments for Change

  • Expect the best.
  • Listen before talking; think before acting.
  • Get to the point.
  • Change what they do, not who they are.
  • Model the behavior you desire.
  • Adapt your approach to the person.
  • Provide for dignity and self-respect.
  • Appeal to self-interest.
  • Rejoice at success.
  • Cut your losses with remorse, not guilt.

The Agreement Frame

“The Agreement Frame” is made up of three phrases you can use in any communication to respect the person you disagree with, maintain rapport, share what you feel is accurate, and yet never resist their opinion in any way. Here are three phrases:

I appreciate and…

I respect, and…

I agree and…

Eight Ways to Deal with Problems

  • Assess the situation
  • Meet the difficult behavior head-on
  • Stay calm and objective
  • Be up-front
  • Make it a two-way conversation
  • Put yourself in their place
  • Be flexible
  • Be tolerant

Watch Out - Dangerous misconceptions that cause conflict:

People always pay attention when you are...

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