The Anger Underneath the Anger

David is calm at work and surprised by how fast anger shows up at home. In this episode, I trace what sits underneath it, and why it matters for the record you’re building without realizing it.

In this episode:
1. Urge surfing: a simple way to let anger rise, peak, and pass without acting on it
2. How to locate anger in your body and name it without adding a story
3. The three triggers behind most anger: disrespect, dishonesty, and unreciprocated effort
4. Why anger so often stands in front of shame
5. The difference between accepting what happened and excusing it
6. Why a boundary only works once you say it out loud
7. How to set personal non-negotiables in a calm moment, before you’re activated
8. How to say the layered version of what you feel instead of only the surface version

When anger shows up for you in a conflict, what do you think it’s protecting? Start noting the patterns in your own record with The Behavior Log: https://thesamigroup.com/pl/2148821426

About your host: Anutza Bellissimo is a Behavioral-Legal Specialist and Accredited Mediator, and the founder of The SAMI Group. Learn more at thesamigroup.com.

Disclaimer: This is a composite case study drawn from group coaching patterns. “David” and “Theo” are not real clients, and details are altered to protect privacy. This episode is educational content and is not legal, clinical, or therapeutic advice.

Conflict doesn’t decide your future. Your behavior does.