Answer 12 quick questions to see how your relationship stress may be impacting your energy, health, and performance.
Think about your current or most recent significant relationship. For each statement, select how true it’s been for you over the past 3 months.
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Question 1 of 12
1. I feel more tense than relaxed around my partner.
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Slightly true
Somewhat true
Very true
Extremely true
Question 2 of 12
2. I walk on eggshells or edit myself to avoid conflict.
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3. I replay conversations in my head, wondering what I did wrong or should have said differently.
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4. I often feel more alone in my relationship than when I’m actually alone.
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5. I say “yes” when I’m exhausted, just to keep the peace.
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6. I avoid bringing up hard topics until I’m so upset that I either shut down or blow up.
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7. I feel responsible for managing my partner’s emotions so they don’t get angry, disappointed, or leave.
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8. Relationship stress makes it harder to focus or be fully present at work.
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9. My sleep, energy, or mood are noticeably worse when things are tense in my relationship.
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10. I notice physical symptoms (headaches, tension, stomach issues, fatigue) that flare up after relationship stress.
Question 11 of 12
11. I use work, scrolling, food, alcohol, or other distractions to numb out from relationship stress.
Question 12 of 12
12. I sometimes wonder if this relationship is quietly making me sick or burning me out.